Being Out At School and In At Home: My Expierence


Being a semi-openly queer college kid, the life I am living now is very double sided. So far, I am not 100% out at school. I only tell people about my sexuality if the situation calls for it, and I am still not out to my roommate. To be completely honest, I am hesitant to fully come out here at school. The reason being that the second you say you are bisexual, some guys might take it as some sort of threesome invitation. Which never makes sense to me because we are both single, where is the extra guy going to come from? That is a rant for a another day and article. However, I will say that coming out to the few people I have some out to is extremely liberating. This makes college much more bearable.

Being home for the holidays is a different scenario. I am only out to one sister and my closest friends (who are all varying degrees of gay). I am not out to my family at all, mostly because my extended family does have some slightly homophobic sentiments. My immediate family seems fine, but when I come out I risk my extended family taking it out on them. Sometimes I feel like I have to be a different person around them, I am so used to being open at school. I know at some point it is going to have to happen, especially if I start a serious relationship with a girl. Honestly this scares me a lot, but I know I have friends who will support me. I know that every queer person faces these struggles, and they might have different results to share. Always know that there is someone in your corner to help you!

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