How I Plan On Coming Out To My Roommate



Living in close quarters with someone  of the same gender can be tough for ANYONE who is attracted to the same gender. So far I have been through two room mates, both who are extremely attractive. I did not come out to the either so far because their stance on LGBT issues never came up. I do not want to make any trouble or put myself in a situation where I feel unsafe in my own dorm room. I also did not want to make them feel uncomfortable or unsafe in their own dorm room as well. Also, even if I felt comfortable around them there is a time and place to come out. Last year, neither the time nor the place presented itself. I have high hopes for this year though. I know it is only a week in, but I have talked about the LGBT community with my current roommate. She seems to be pretty open to the idea, but her thoughts could change when faced with it. So far I am playing it by ear. Here is my personal step-by-step if I hope to maybe come out to my roommate this year.


1. Ease into it
Like I said I have been bringing up LGBT related topics every once in a while to this room mate, and she has been reacting positively. However, I do not plan to over whelm her by coming out in the Fall semester. I plan to talk about the LGBT community and make sure me coming out will not make things complicated.

2. Maybe Drop Some Hints?

Having Asperger has caused my non verbal communication skills to be sub-par. I might say things like " oh like at the girls, she is sooooooo pretty" or " Both guys and girls can be cute". I will be praying that she picks up what I am putting down.


3. I Must Come Out in Spring

I work best if I give myself a deadline, and this can apply to serious conversations. I have promised myself that if I still have a crush on my roommate come Spring Semester, I will come out to her. However, I will not tell her about the crush unless I am at least 90% sure she is also into girls.



In conclusion, it is in my experience that the best room mates are open and comfortable with each other. However, I will not sacrifice one for the other if it has to come to that. Wish me luck!

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